Brittany and Ben were married on a bridge, on the beautiful grounds of Della Tera in Estes Park. It was just them, me, and their photographer. What a privilege to be near them, witnessing their vows, and simply catching just a little of the feelings that they expressed to one another. We acknowledged that, in the moment, they had family and friends back home who surely were with them at a heart level, and looking forward to being with them for a great celebration when they return, as husband and wife!
I recently received a check in the mail from the father of a bride with a note that read, "Please find enclosed a check for the balance of the fee for marrying my little girl." A tender sentiment, one that I often see brought to light on the faces of moms and dads at weddings. My goodness, what a range of emotions we all get to experience on these most remarkable of days!
Here's a tip on how to make your wedding day truly memorable: let go. When your wedding day arrives, have everything in place so well that you can quit managing, detailing, and arranging things. This can be accomplished by, first, keeping things as simple as possible. Second, let your friends help you by being responsible for tasks and details. And, third, if you can swing it, hire a day-of coordinator to manage the event. (See my favorites to check out a couple of coordinators.) I have witnessed brides who are frantic on their day, thus missing the true experience. And I've seen brides who are relaxed, just hanging with their friends, enjoying each moment. The bride who is fully present - seeing joy in others' eyes, noticing the fragrances and sounds of the moment, seeing the sunlight or rain filtering through the trees -- will feel the beauty of the experience long after the vows are spoken and the last dance is finished. The magic of your wedding day isn't in the details; it's in the mindfulness of each moment, and the gratitude in your heart. That, and the touch of one who loves you, as well as those chocolate truffles!