Here's a tip on how to make your wedding day truly memorable: let go. When your wedding day arrives, have everything in place so well that you can quit managing, detailing, and arranging things. This can be accomplished by, first, keeping things as simple as possible. Second, let your friends help you by being responsible for tasks and details. And, third, if you can swing it, hire a day-of coordinator to manage the event. I have witnessed brides who are frantic on their day, thus missing the true experience. And I've seen brides who are relaxed, just hanging with their friends, enjoying each moment. The bride who is fully present - seeing joy in others' eyes, noticing the fragrances and sounds of the moment, seeing the sunlight or rain filtering through the trees -- will feel the beauty of the experience long after the vows are spoken and the last dance is finished. The magic of your wedding day isn't in the details; it's in the mindfulness of each moment, and the gratitude in your heart. That, and the touch of one who loves you, as well as those chocolate truffles!
In a wedding ceremony last weekend, I took a moment to honor the groom for his service to our country. He had recently returned from Afghanistan, and I shared that both he and his bride live their lives so selflessly. They both always look after others, put others first. When, on behalf of everyone present, I thanked him for his service to our country, for helping to keep us all safe, I noticed that his parents' eyes glistened, his bride looked at the man she was marrying with pure admiration and pride, and his friends and family smiled with a look of affection and gratitude. True love, showing itself in their wedding, in lots of beautiful ways.
I am so blessed to work as a wedding officiant in Colorado. What a privilege to be with couples in such a chief moment, to witness their promises, and to be in the presence of true love. Wow!